Mom Rage: What Moms Aren't Talking About

The ear-splitting cry of a toddler, a teen's eye roll, the defiant "NO!" from your child... these moments, though common on this journey we call motherhood, can sometimes cause us to question our sanity. Here's the harsh reality: no parenting book or well-intentioned parenting advice can prepare us for the HUGE emotions that can sometimes overwhelm us. In fact, contrary to what we have always been taught, the real challenge isn't managing our children's behaviors (although I do recognize the very REAL challenge there), it's managing our own behavior.

When we experience those moments when we're already under-resourced and it seems there's nothing left to give, we try to use every last bit of strength and energy to stop ourselves from exploding with Mom Rage but then it happens. We can't stop it. WE EXPLODE.

As a mom, have you ever had one of THOSE days?

You know, the ones where EVERYTHING seems to set you off, EVERYTHING goes wrong from stubbing your toe to your child spilling their milk, to your hungry 4-year-old accidentally dropping an open bag of Goldfish all over the floor to your other child not being able to find their favorite sweatshirt and on top of it you're already running late and the house is a mess and the dog is barking and all of a sudden, the tiniest thing sends you over the edge and before you know it you're exploding like a volcano all over your kids?

Then, after you've dropped your kids off at school and you are reflecting about your morning, you have that deep-seated mom guilt. You know, the kind you feel in your gut and your broken heart? You feel terrible for the way you treated your kids and all you can think about is the look in Billy's eyes when you were spewing your lava all over the place.

Moms aren't supposed to be angry. Why was I so triggered? Why did I act out over that little thing? What is wrong with me?

Tears. So. Many. Tears.

That overwhelming anger, according to Minna Dubin, is Mom Rage. Mom Rage is the uncontrolled anger that's common for mothers to feel that stems from the impossible expectations of modern motherhood, combined with a deep lack of support from the societal structures and in the family systems. And guess what, you're not alone. Mom rage is VERY common and it is important for our mental health and the mental health of our children that we get vulnerable and get help.

In fact, 21% of moms admit to experiencing mom rage, however, I'm confident there are far more mamas out there who are afraid to admit that it's something they experience.

While there's no clinical definition for mom rage, experts say it describes the uncontrollable anger mothers can experience that leads to verbal and/or physical explosions.

But here's the problem with not being real with yourself: continuously suppressing emotions can only build pressure causing you to continue to explode in ways you later regret. When this happens, this doesn't only affect our well-being but it also negatively impacts our interactions with our children leading to disconnection in our relationship with them.

Addressing mom rage head-on is crucial not only for our mental well-being but for the overall emotional environment of our homes.

Mom rage is one of the reasons I am giving away a 12-week Transformational Parenting Package to one deserving mama out there. We explore your parenting past and connect the dots...how is the way you were parented influencing the way you are parenting? What societal expectations are keeping you from showing up as your authentic self or from seeing your kids as they truly are? Together, we also learn more about emotional intelligence, values and boundaries creating clarity around what you are feeling and needing in any given moment to help you process it all before you explode, allowing you to respond instead of react.

And, we learn how to regulate when we get triggered so we can better show up for our children not only in the big moments but the little moments too.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. By acknowledging and addressing Mom Rage, we can create a more peaceful and nurturing environment for you and your family. If you’re ready to take the first step towards transforming your parenting experience, enter the giveaway for a chance to win.

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This is how we make the world a better place, together, one family at a time.